We've already heard about the female G-spot. They opened it, searched hard, didn't find it, and (apparently out of frustration) questioned its existence.
As soon as the noise calmed down a bit, that's it! – it is said that men have a G-spot too!
By the way, it's much easier to find it.
What is this?
The male G-spot is often called the P-spot. The "P" stands for prostate.
Recall that the prostate is a walnut-sized gland located just below the bladder.
The P-spot is not only responsible for orgasm, but also aids reproduction by producing seminal fluid and helping sperm live long and thrive once expelled from the penis.
How to find?
Two ways: inside and outside. You can search for the G-spot in any way - a man will still experience amazing sensations. It all depends on the degree of trust between partners.
- Inside. This point is located two inches from the entrance to the anus. Approximately at the level of the first joint of the finger.
- From the outside the prostate can also be stimulated through the perineum. The skin between the scrotum and the anus is literally filled with nerve endings. This should not be forgotten during oral sex.
How to stimulate the prostate?
First: dialogue
A man is unlikely to be happy if his significant other suddenly decides to start such experiments. Some people are very scrupulous about everything related to anal play. Therefore, dialogue comes first.
It's very important to treat each other with respect and remember that not everyone can get excited about the same things. If your former partner loved such techniques, this does not mean that the current man will be delighted with them.
Equipment
In order for the search for the P-spot to bring maximum pleasure to both partners, it is necessary to prepare. You will need:
Lubrication
Any anal sex is impossible without lubricant. Choose a high-quality lubricant, such as a silicone-based one.
Condom
Where there is anus there are bacteria. Yes, not very romantic, but that's life. Don't forget to put a condom or latex glove on your finger.
Anal toys
Choose according to your taste. They will add thrill.
Do not forget!
Hands
Hands should be washed thoroughly and nails should be rounded and trimmed. Infections and injuries are not part of your plans, right?
Create the atmosphere
The man should be relaxed and sexually aroused. Warm bath, sensual massage, caresses: don't skimp on foreplay.
Let's get to the point
Is the man relaxed and you're ready to start looking for that magic spot?
But don't rush things: start with external stimulation.
Try this:
- Use the tips of your index and middle fingers to rub and caress your perineum.
- Experiment, alternate different speeds and intensities.
- With the other hand caress the penis and scrotum.
If you're ready to move on:
- Apply lubricant to your finger and slowly insert it into the anus for 2 - 5 cm.
- Feel carefully around to find the prostate. It should feel smooth and round to the touch.
- Once you feel it, start making gentle "come here" motions with your finger.
- Ask a man what his feelings are. Speed, intensity: does everything suit him?
- Add a hand caress or a blowjob to the process - for the man a powerful orgasm is guaranteed.
Reminder for the receiving party
The first thing you should do is relax. Only in this case can you get maximum pleasure. AND:
- Speak. Of your feelings and the boundaries of what is allowed.
- Toilet. Prostate stimulation and anal penetration can cause the urge to both urinate and defecate. With such a combination it is difficult to relax. Going to the bathroom (and bathing) before games is a must.
- Comfort. Create all conditions for yourself. Don't let anything distract you.
- Enjoy. Everything that happens should give you pleasure. Ask your significant other to use more (less) lube, to use sex toys, to change positions, and to not be silent if something doesn't feel right.
Poses
You can choose any position in which both partners will feel comfortable. But you can start with one of these:
- Face down. The man lies on his stomach and spreads his legs slightly. The partner places a pillow under his hips and sits behind him.
- Doggie. He gets down on all fours, his partner is behind him.
- On the side. The man lies on his side with one knee pressed to his chest. The partner lies down from behind her so that it is comfortable for her to stimulate the partner's anus.
I did not like it
This is fine. There is nothing in sex that absolutely everyone likes. Maybe it's just not for you.
If both partners are interested in continuing the experiment, you can try again. And so, by trial and error, find a technique that you both would like. He experiments with positions, sex toys and amounts of lube.
Map of pleasure
There are still a lot of "hot spots" on a man's body, which many people for some reason forget about. An unforgivable omission!
Pay attention to areas such as:
- The head of the penis. This area is full of nerve endings. Touching, licking, hand sucking - use it all. Especially during prostate play. Don't forget about lubrication.
- Frenulum: is an elastic, leathery fold that connects the lower part of the head of the penis with the foreskin. Insanely sensitive. Competent manipulation of the frenulum will give the man a powerful orgasm. The frenulum can be stimulated with the tongue or the thumb of the free hand.
- Scrotum. Prostate massage combined with scrotal massage will give the man maximum pleasure. Attach a vibrating toy to the process.
PSYou can do without sex toys, scented candles and erotic music. But it won't be possible without trust and relaxation. Focus on what's important.
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Many men categorically refuse G-spot stimulation. Moreover, a huge number of guys do not know what the prostate is and where it is located at all! This misfortune must be corrected: try to gradually release the man in bed and do not give up experimenting. No one says to grab a huge dildo and chase a man around the bedroom. Carefully, gradually go down to the area under the testicles - this can be done during a blowjob. Try different stimulation techniques and monitor the man's reaction. It is very unlikely that he will refuse: he will definitely like her. And then you can go directly to the G-spot.
G-spot in men: where it is located and how to stimulate it correctly
According to the Greeks, the mysterious G-spot in men is the second heart. This poetic name is due to the fact that it is from this moment that the whole process of excitement begins. If you specifically affect this area, you can achieve a vivid orgasm. To please a man it is not enough to find the "magic button". You need to learn how to stimulate it correctly.
What is meant by G-spot in young people?
The man's G-spot is the prostate gland, the stimulation of which causes the muscles to contract. Thanks to this, the boy is able to experience many vivid sensations. Such an orgasm is much more colorful than that which appears in a young man during stimulation of the genital organ.
The male G-spot is a true discovery for otherworldly pleasure. But to activate the magic button you need to know where to look for it.
Where is the erogenous point and how to find it
To give your partner a powerful orgasm, you need to know where the precious G-spot is located in men. Its position is very interesting. If a guy's penis is located outside, the precious "button" is located in the area between the rectum and pubic bones. It has the shape of a walnut or chestnut, occupies approximately 4 cm2 of surface and weighs no more than 20 g.
In all men, the G-spot is located under the bladder, at the top of the urethra. To detect it it is necessary to penetrate the anus to a depth of 5-7 cm. As soon as you feel a small swelling you can consider that the objective has been achieved.
Men are often embarrassed to reach for the G-spot for fear of being labeled as lovers of same-sex love. To get real pleasure, you need to get rid of this stereotype. There is nothing wrong with learning and using the magic pea. You need to learn how to stimulate her correctly and then sex with your beloved woman will take on new colors.
How to properly stimulate the area
In order for the G-spot to provide maximum pleasure, it is necessary to properly prepare for the stimulation process. To do this you need:
- Cleanse the rectum with a laxative or enema.
- Work on trust as a couple. If you ignore this stage of preparation, the guy will not be able to relax and will ultimately experience only painful sensations.
- The girl needs to cut her long nails. If she accidentally injures the internal mucosa of a man, this will lead to the formation of inflammation.
- In order for G-spot stimulation to occur without unpleasant consequences, strict compliance with hygiene rules is necessary. Before the process, you need to wash your hands with soap and then put on disposable medical gloves.
- During stimulation, sexologists recommend using a special intimate lubricant, which will facilitate the penetration of female fingers into the anus. It's called lubricant. The more, the better. We recommend choosing a lubricant based on lidocaine, a substance that helps reduce discomfort. But it is important to remember that the analgesic effect of the lubricant begins after 10-15 minutes.
- In order for the G-spot examination to be painless, the young man must take a comfortable position. A good option is the lying position: the guy is on his back, and the girl is between her legs.
With your hand
When the man has taken a comfortable position, the girl needs to warm up her body with a massage. The partner must reach his lover's scrotum and massage the testicles and anus in a circular motion. Conventionally, this area is considered the external G-spot in men and boys.
To distract your partner, you can use oral sex. You need to insert your fingers into the anus carefully and slowly, as if you were tightening a screw. This will allow the skin folds to move away without causing traumatic effects and increasing pleasant sensations.
Once you can find your G-spot, you shouldn't turn it into a stuck button or joystick. The girl must imagine that under the finger there is a clitoris, which must be slightly pressed and caressed with soft circular movements. When a man approaches climax, sexologists recommend rhythmically pressing the G-spot about 1 time per second.
Using special devices
You can give pleasure to your loved one with the help of sex toys. They allow you to influence both the external and internal "pea".Modern sex toys include:
- anal beads;
- vibration stimulators;
- dildo.
Sexologists recommend the use of anal beads for untrained men. To do this, they must be inserted into the anus and not removed until the end of intimacy with the woman.
When orgasm is "on the threshold", the woman should start pulling out 1 ball at a time. This will give a man extraordinary pleasure. When the guy gets used to such intimate games, you can bring other devices to bed. They should be used in the same way as fingers.
Precautions and contraindications
Not all men can affect the prostate. There are numerous contraindications to this type of intimate caress.These include the following diseases:
- hemorrhoids;
- chronic inflammation of the prostate gland and acute prostatitis;
- polyps;
- problems with urination;
- inflammatory processes in the rectum.
If during anal caresses you make mistakes in the stimulation technology, do not take into account hygiene rules and ignore contraindications, infections will occur in the prostate and inflammatory processes will worsen. Before an intimate experiment, it is advisable to consult a doctor.
G-spot stimulation in young men is not only a pleasant, but also a useful procedure that has a beneficial effect on men's health. Don't be shy about exploring your body. The more pleasure points there are, the better.
G-spot massage: everything for men and women, effective techniques
Understanding true lust from intimacy is impossible without carefully studying the erogenous zones of both your partner and yourself. This knowledge will give you the opportunity to receive the greatest pleasure. The G-spot plays an important role in the research and study of erogenous zones. Those who want to get the most out of intimacy should learn to massage the G-spot.
A few words about the history of the G-spot
Sexuality has been widely studied from a woman's perspective. For the male body, it was previously believed that the onset of orgasm and ejaculation is the greatest pleasure of sex, although they later revised their views. Around the 80s of last year, sexologists (especially in Western countries) began to encounter more and more patients who experienced a jet (or squirt) orgasm.
These women described their sensations as multiple orgasms (in a short time), powerful and vivid. However, several decades ago, in 1950, the German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg spoke about a special area in the female genital organs, the stimulation of which led to increased sexual desire and rapid orgasm, as well as the release of fluids as a result.
Some time later, after the death of the scientist, this area began to be called briefly - G-spot. In some sources you can also find such a description - j-spot, which is a definition of the same thing.
Much later, scientists established that a similar zone exists not only in women, but also in men. In other words, a man can get a stronger and brighter orgasm if a certain area is stimulated during caresses.
Location of the G-spot in women
This is one of the most common questions people ask. To begin with, you should understand that you should not look for a "point" or a "pea", as many believe, but a zone, an area. This area is located in the vagina, on the anterior wall, about 3-5 cm from the entrance. This area is not located directly on the wall, but as if it were inside it, that is, it is not the mucosa that needs to be stimulated, but the tissues located deeper.
To better understand the location of the G-spot in women, it is necessary to locate the ureter. Closer to the exit of urine from the ureter, right around it, are the Skene's glands (or paraurethral glands), responsible for the most voluptuous sensations. If the girl lies on her back, the area itself will be located directly under the pubis and clitoris.
You can try to feel this area with palpation, that is, feel it with your fingers. To do this, the woman lies on her back. The man turns his hand with the palm facing himself and carefully inserts 1 or 2 fingers into the partner's vagina. Now you need to carefully probe the front surface of your partner's vagina with your fingertips. After 3-5 cm from the entrance, lumps and roughness are felt. For some, the surface of the area even resembles the sky in their mouth. The internal tissues of this area are the desired G-spot.
G-spot stimulation in women
There are several ways to stimulate this area. Some require the presence of a partner, others can be performed independently, still others require the mandatory use of special devices (sex toys). So, here are the most common methods:
Using your fingers
This is the simplest and most accessible way. You can use your fingers to stimulate the desired area alone or in the presence of a partner, which will further arouse both of you. A man can also massage his partner's G-spot, which will allow him to monitor the degree of her arousal and literally control the entire process, speeding up or slowing down certain phases of stimulation.
So, your hands need to be clean, because basic hygiene rules are literally your and your partner's safety. It's a good idea to have lubricant on hand, because lubrication always reduces friction and improves glide. Meanwhile, some couples avoid lubrication because they believe it reduces sensitivity.
In any case, the girl must be excited, which means that this process must include foreplay (of any kind: kissing, touching and even cunnilingus). Only when the partner literally gets wet "down there" can you start stimulating the G-spot. The finger must be inserted carefully, probing every millimeter inside.
Once you have identified the desired area, intensify the massaging movements, pressing lightly towards the skin. The finger constantly looks upwards. If everything is done correctly, the probability that your partner will reach orgasm soon is very high.
During sexual intercourse
Surprisingly, stimulating the G-spot in women during sex is not as easy as it might seem. Here you should consider positions for intercourse as much as possible. The angle of penetration should be such that the required area is constantly exposed to friction from the head of the partner's penis.
For example, the most famous missionary position in the classic version is not suitable for the desired purposes, because penetration occurs from top to bottom and not vice versa. To stimulate the G-spot, you need to slightly lift your partner's pelvis so that her pubis is at the same level as the man's groin area. In this state, the angle of penetration will be "vertical", which means that the G-spot will be stimulated naturally by the head of the penis.
Everyone's favorite dogi-style pose should also be modified slightly. A man should not lean on his knees, but stand with his legs slightly bent. His pelvis will be slightly higher than the level of his partner's vagina and the head of the penis will simply rest against the front wall of the vagina, where the desired area is located. Finally, there is another position for those women who like the "top" position.
In this case, you should position yourself by turning 180 degrees towards your partner, so that the man's head is between the girl's legs and she rests her elbows on the surface of the bed. The fronts of the partners' bodies look up, and their faces look at each other. Here the area is stimulated by the outer edge of the penis head. Here the woman herself regulates and controls the process, which means that she is able to achieve the most vivid orgasm.
Using sex toys
Everything is very simple here. In specialized stores you can find devices, most often dildos, the end of which is slightly bent upwards, which contributes to a more expressive effect on the desired area. Such devices may have additional features: rotation, vibration, different textures and shapes, as well as modes. You can also perform stimulation using them independently or with a partner.
Prostate stimulation: what type of organ is it?
The prostate is located under the bladder at the beginning of the urethra behind the pubic bone. It plays a huge role in sexual, reproductive function and the act of urination. First, the prostate gland produces a fluid that makes sperm watery and motile. By studying the topic of how to stimulate a man's prostate, you can help rid it of excess fluids and improve erection.
It is considered the male G-spot
Although the very existence of this point has been questioned (one plausible version is the internal part of the clitoris), it is important to understand that the prostate is also considered the "orgasm button". It is also called the second male heart. Once you learn how to stimulate his prostate so that he can come, you will be able to conquer him completely and surprise him greatly.
Massage initially had a medical purpose, but men quickly realized that it brought great pleasure. The excitement resulting from G-spot stimulation relaxes your partner and maintains an erection. Applying knowledge about how and where exactly to stimulate the prostate helps to achieve a powerful and fast orgasm.
It's not that deep
The reproductive accessory gland is located behind the anal wall towards the navel, a few centimeters from the sphincter. About three quarters of a finger deep into the anus, that is, it is quite possible to reach it. Prostate stimulation must be carried out very carefully due to its high sensitivity.
Why is it necessary to stimulate the prostate?
Even if a man has a rough idea of how to stimulate the prostate for pleasure, there are other important reasons for this. So, for what purposes is massage needed:
- Improves blood circulation in the pelvic organs and blood circulation in the prostate gland.
- Outflow of lymph and secretions from the prostate, eliminating congestion, reducing swelling due to fluid accumulation, relieving the symptoms of prostatitis, for its treatment and prevention.
- Strengthen the muscles of the prostate gland.
- Strengthen erection and increase potency, sexual desire.
- Accelerates the penetration of drugs into the gland.
How to massage the prostate
Ideally, you should consult a doctor and watch a video on how to stimulate a man's prostate. Despite the beneficial effects, the procedure can cause pain and even harm to the chosen one. But with skillful and careful manipulation, prostate massage will only be beneficial.
Discuss the details
As with everything related to sex, you need your partner's consent for any manipulation. This is the expansion of your intimate boundaries and the realization of sexual fantasies. If you are close enough, you can try this forbidden fruit.
Keep it simple
There is no need to turn prostate stimulation into an event of incredible proportions. Plus, you don't even have to put your fingers inside! When you discuss with your partner how to stimulate the prostate, you can experiment.
For example, it will be easier to implement your plan in the knee-elbow position or on the side, preferably on the right. Your knees should be brought close to your stomach. In this position it is easier to relax the desired area. Another way to better stimulate the prostate from the outside is to massage the area around the anus or touch it with the tongue. Make it part of oral sex while your hands are occupied with the penis, or pay attention to the area between the penis and the scrotum (indirect stimulation). There are many ways to achieve the desired result.
Relax
Both! Let the man lie on his back if he doesn't want to lift his pelvis upwards and position yourself between his legs. When you feel he is ready, gently insert your finger into his anus and start stimulating your husband or boyfriend's prostate.
If your fingers encounter obstacles during the massage, take your time and wait until it relaxes properly. Maybe run your lips or fingertips over his body. In this case, guys need foreplay too. Sexologists even recommend not starting sexual intercourse with this. It is best to start the massage when both of you are already sufficiently "warmed up" and orgasm is close.
But if you are so free and curious, it is not forbidden to try different variations, at the beginning, in the middle or towards the end.